SPRINGER: Motivating your spouse

Approaching your spouse about regular exercise (or their lack thereof) is a sensitive subject. Finding the right balance of support and motivation is a challenge that sometimes leads to resentment or hurt feelings.

It is possible to get your non-exercising partner moving and it takes encouragement and consistency.

People who do not exercise are often aware of the benefits of regular workouts but cannot find the motivation to get going. Non-exercisers usually know that exercise is good for them but feel workouts are boring.

Do not underestimate the fun factor when getting your partner moving. Choose activities you can do together like walking, bike riding or lifting weights.

No matter how hard you try, you cannot force your spouse to like the same activities as you.

Spin class or pilates might not be your husband's idea of a good time. Encourage him to try boxing classes or something that involves outdoor sports like rock climbing. Once he discovers that exercise can be fun, challenging and even competitive, the self-motivation will kick in.

Husbands are not always the lazier of the two spouses. Getting your wife to start exercising regularly is extra tough since women are very sensitive when it comes to their physiques.

The best approach is to emphasize the health benefits that regular exercise lends. Explain that you want your spouse to stay healthy and keep strong so you will enjoy many fun-filled years together. Plus, exercise naturally elevates moods and can be a positive outlet for stressed-out moms.

Exercising as a couple is a great way to spend quality time together. As far as your health is concerned it is a much better alternative than a night out drinking and dining.

If you were to replace one big night out each week with a workout you would see a noticeable difference in your appearance and energy level.

Becoming a "workout couple" does not mean you have to ditch regular activities. Exercise should enhance your life and give you more outlets besides just vegetating in front of the television together. Plan a reward for your hard work after you both have successfully exercised for a certain amount of time. Rewards are a great motivator.

Physical changes are not always immediate to novice workout participants. However, once your spouse starts to feel better they usually will be motivated to continue.

Hiring outside help is sometimes a good thing as few spouses take kindly to their partner bossing them around the gym. A trainer can give non-judgmental advice and personalize the workout program for specific goals.

Over the years I have trained people who regardless of their prodding or encouragement have never gotten their spouse to exercise. As long as they are not detouring your program, then you might have to accept that you married a non-exerciser.

Kim Springer and her husband, Mike, are certified personal trainers and owners of Springer Training. They can be reached at 233-9442 or at their Web site www.springertraining.com.


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